Your girlfriend said something that really upset you. Or say, you got in an argument with your girlfriend. You can’t seem to bite your tongue on this one, and it’s like an itch that can’t be unscratched. Maintaining the stereotypical impenetrable man is aligned with your morals so you can’t be perceived as an over-sensitive, vulnerable boyfriend. Therefore, you express anger to compromise being upset. As a result, you begin bombarding your girlfriend with insults with every intention to hurt her. She begins to cry. Success. To ensure she won’t make the same mistake of hurting you again, you abandon her while she’s crying. Even if it will probably hurt you more than it will hurt her you do it anyways. Although this may be a generalization about girls, once a girl’s self-esteem has been attacked she becomes uncomfortable in her own skin. This irritation; this desire to remove any accused flaw may be taken to extremes. Just because you’re angry at someone, it doesn’t eliminate the fact that you don’t love them anymore (unless you never had to begin with). The power of anger may be irreversible. Now how would you feel if another person - another guy - was there to comfort her. And again this may be a generalization about boys, but impulsively boys get this uplifted, maybe powerful, feeling when they’re needed. So how would you feel? Would you feel betrayed she ran to someone else in your absence? I hope not, because out of all the people she needed, it was you. Out of all the comforting and advice she’ll get, it will not mend her insecurities like you would… like you could. Do you begin to long for her to be in your arms? Do you create scripts for what you need to say to comfort her, your girl? Maybe you’re thinking your girl would never do that to you, but then again, maybe you’re just taking her for granted. Now I think I’m speaking in favour for all the girls out there that once you’ve dealt her at her lowest points, a seed of trust and reliability is planted in your relationship. You will be the guy she needs. You will be the guy she can depend on. Rant in a nutshell: if you don’t treat her right, don’t be upset when someone else does.